Masturbation is an art.
One for which every single person will have a different stroke, style and finished masterpiece.
And that's because each individual has their own desires, pleasure spots and kinks. But, we don't often hear about those differences. In fact, we barely hear about masturbation at all.
Have a watch of the juiciest Mamamia sex survey results, right here. Post continues after video.
Which is why we're opening up the conversation, in a very intimate way.
We asked eight very candid women to share their exact masturbation method. How they set the vibe, when they carve out time for a wank, and exactly what they do with their hands, their body, their toys, their... soft furnishings, to reach orgasm.
Here's every detail they shared with us.
A 23-year-old straight female, usually opts for a middle-of-the-night masturbation session.
The schedule:
"I usually can only do it when it is 2am because I have best friends for housemates and they have a habit of not knocking," she shares. "It usually only happens about once a week (if that) because I don't personally like to watch porn so masturbation only really happens when I am genuinely in the mood (AKA don't force it or anything)."
The mood:
"I like all the lights off, and – this is a new one – but I love to light a candle and place it far away from my bed because I like the ambience it sets. If I don't have a candle, I use the light from my diffuser (it's just really nice, so it isn't pitch black)."
The technique:
"I don't have a partner so I pull out my trusty sidekick, the Lelo Sona 2 Cruise and just take it really slow."
The afterbuzz:
"I become extremely tired but then I start to panic because I was once told in high school that it is crucial you pee after masturbating, so I usually waddle to my bathroom to do my business. Then after that, I do a quick wash-up (AKA wash hands, face, change my underwear and pyjamas if necessary)."
A 29-year-old straight female turns to lesbian porn for her solo-sessions.
The schedule:
"I only ever masturbate when I'm home alone on the weekend. Which is usually right in the middle of the day."
The mood:
"I'm rubbish at setting the mood. I just take my pants off and get to it."
The technique:
"I put on a porn video, which used to be of male and females having sex, but now I almost always just watch female on female porn. Then I turn on my Womanizer, and the rest runs like clockwork."
The afterbuzz:
"After masturbating I genuinely feel liberated! Just so refreshed and happy."
A 30-year-old bisexual female who likes to experiment alone.
The schedule:
"I don't work to a schedule – I just masturbate whenever I feel like it. That's one of the joys of working from home!"
The mood:
"I just think 'should I do it?' and then see what happens. I don’t usually need any special mood setting to orgasm."
The technique:
"My go-to is clitoral stimulation with a small vibrator that I use externally. However, occasionally I’ll get the vaginal vibrators out and the nipple clamps if I’m in the mood."
The afterbuzz:
"After masturbating I genuinely feel liberated! Just so refreshed and happy."
A 36-year-old straight female likes to listen to audio porn to get in the zone.
The schedule:
"Early afternoon is when I’m most horny, so that's usually where I grab the opportunity."
The mood:
"I often listen to Dipsea Stories. Or listen to porn and turn off the video. I don’t really like watching porn, but I really like listening to other women reaching orgasm."
The technique:
"I lay in bed, on my back, with my knees apart and my feet together. I place my hands on my vulva and move in a circular motion, almost like I'm drawing a spiral closer and closer to my clit. I end with playing with my clit and applying pressure to it to cum."
The afterbuzz:
"After masturbating I feel happy, relaxed and so much lighter."
A 25-year-old pansexual female who likes to incorporate temperature play.
The schedule:
"Honestly any time is potential wanking time. Night time is probably more common for me, but during a lazy morning after a big stressful night is elite."
"Also, during my period is the prime time. I pop a towel down and get to it, because masturbating while on my period relieves cramps and stress. It's something I think everyone with a vagina should try!"
The mood:
"It's a simple setup for me: Diffuser on, lights off."
The technique:
"Clit and nipple stimulation – and absolutely no insertion at all. I’ve found that using cooling techniques really gets me going. So using ice cubes, ice rollers, fan blowing cold air, and just being cold in general. And basic vibrators focussing on the clit is my go-to."
The afterbuzz:
"I always feel relieved, relaxed, less tense and kind of in a trance for a while after."
A 25-year-old straight female who struggles with after-orgasm guilt.
The schedule:
"I used to be a 'first thing when I woke up' kinda gal, but now it’s been more like 10pm till about midnight."
"Sometimes I masturbate because I’ll have a headache and it usually helps. I also know that I will have a really deep sleep afterwards – so will do it to tire myself out if I am having trouble getting to sleep."
The mood:
"Door locked, curtains closed, low lighting. By the time I’ve thought about it though, I am already in the mood."
The technique:
"Usually my go-to combo is the soul sucker vibrator paired with porn. It really just depends on what mood I’m in for the type of porn, but Owen Gray is my favourite pornstar. Lately have been going 'Old Testament' and not using any toys because I felt like I was starting to get to dependent on it and it has not been anywhere near as good."
The afterbuzz:
"Ecstatic high and then weird catholic guilt? But then reminding myself that I’m an adult with needs and it is completely healthy to do so."
A 25-year-old bisexual female who exclusively uses female-owned porn.
The schedule:
"Probably more at night rather than morning, but just depends on my mood."
The mood:
"I honestly don't really do anything special or have a routine set up. Generally, I just plan it for when I know I'll be home alone and then I get to it."
The technique:
"I head on over to Bellesa, which is a female-owned and run porn website (specifically made for women). I will either use a vibrator or just my hand. Purely external stimulation as I don't find internal to be that pleasurable."
The afterbuzz:
"Afterwards I just feel deeply satisfied."
A 28-year-old straight female who utilises a pillow for her masturbation technique.
The schedule:
"I am my horniest at night, so that's when I try to carve out some time for a solo-session. The only other time I would masturbate is if I've just watched a really hot sex scene, and then need to whack one out."
The mood:
"I'm not very good at setting the mood. All I really do is close the shutters."
The technique:
"I usually use porn as a visual stimulus, with threesomes or group sex as my preferred videos. I like sex toys, but use them more in partner-play, so for masturbating alone I like to go old school and hump a pillow. I stack up three pillows on top of each other and ride them. It sounds weird, but it's the best way to have a pressure orgasm at home."
The afterbuzz:
"After finishing I have what feels like a deep throb in my vagina, and then a wave of guilt washes over me. I think that's still lingering from sex-shaming times, and I feel dirty for watching porn. But then I remember orgasms are good for me, and I tell that guilt to eff-off!"
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