I can't stand many of my girlfriends' partners. I don't understand it. These are smart, strong, stunning women and they're choosing the company of absolute dropkicks. I wish I could shake these ladies and say, "it's ok to be single".
We're in our thirties, so I understand the lowering of standards in order to tick off the 'successful life' checklist you're given growing up; husband, dog, kids, white picket fence. But newsflash... you can still be happy without all these things. In fact, I bet your joy levels would be much higher without a no-hoper hanging off you.
Now I know what you're thinking. I must be bitter and impossible to impress. Incorrect. Nobody - and I mean nobody likes these blokes I speak of. Which presents another baffling conundrum: why don't these girls care that everybody is repulsed by their other halves? And trust me, they know. They rarely bring their partners to group events for fear of embarrassment, and they barely talk about them. My guess is they're sick of hearing, "you can do better".
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I suppose that's the only saving grace here… these women have decided not to burden us with their never-ending man complaints (history has taught them they won't like our feedback). Ignorance is bliss, and so they go forth, head firmly in sand - which I actually suspect is a coping mechanism protecting them from the grim reality of their choices.
Let me elaborate by providing four completely unembellished examples I’m currently dealing with in my friendship circle. Names have been changed for obvious reasons.
1. Sarah asked me for dinner with her new flame, Peter. She's been seeing this guy for six months, but didn't want anyone to meet him until she was sure. Her tales of him in the lead-up were red flag central (real misogynist vibes), but she was blissfully blinded by his adoration of her. Dinner was more hideous than I ever imagined was possible. Peter fat shamed our waitress, not only behind her back, but to her face (much to my clear horror). Sarah has since tried to justify Peter's comments, but it's ingrained behaviour and it's inexcusable as far as I’m concerned.
2. Fiona's partner Robert doesn't work, he never has. He's a giant slob who lives off his grandmother's inheritance. Did I mention that he's racist and homophobic? You can only imagine how his antics go down with the Indigenous and gay friends in our group. Fiona likes to blame ignorance for Robert's conduct. We call it a lack of education, awareness, intelligence and manners.