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laura__palmer June 24, 2022

This isn’t about saving children. If it was, they’d care enough to ban guns. This is about controlling women.

laura__palmer June 23, 2022

@kelloneill Pricilla wasn't the only underage girl he groomed, either. It was a pattern with him. Defending it is gross as!

laura__palmer June 19, 2022

@meemiimoo You are coming at this from a very privileged position if you think that it's about "having the best of everything". 

laura__palmer June 19, 2022

@ska35 "they are both in long daycare and their behaviour is generally worse and they are more anxious the less time they have with me or my husband (playing up for attention). " My kids went to care, I didn't have this issue. Maybe it's more to do with your parenting than childcare. 

laura__palmer June 19, 2022

@cat Every single time an article comes up about childcare you get these privileged women coming along and pretending like one income is enough for families to survive on or that women don't have the right and need to earn their own money and help support themselves and their families, as well as employ their skills in the wider community. It's so tiresome to watch.

laura__palmer June 17, 2022

I was the main breadwinner and the default parent, which is one of the reasons I left my now ex. He was in the arts, was home most of the day, brought in no income and did the bare minimum. I did it all, now he’s gone I still do it all, but I don’t have a dead weight that I’m dragging around either. Men (many of them) need to step up and realise that running a household needs to be on the shoulders of more than their partner. 

laura__palmer June 16, 2022

@cat Yeah, I'm sure the attitude of "give me all the drugs!" was once more prevalent than it is today. And I think that attitude is much more healthy than going in with the idea of having a "drug free birth". Why go through that when you don't have to?

laura__palmer June 14, 2022

@mamamia-user-482898552 you aren't being lectured, she is sharing her experience of the world as she knows it. There are challenges associated with growing up in an electronic age. That is just fact. There is no need to be defensive. 

laura__palmer June 14, 2022

@mb1111 "However I typically avoid tick-tock and may not use all the functions on my phone. It doesn’t make me not tech-savvy it just makes me dated. " that's what I'm talking about. Millennials are much more likely to take up that sort of thing than gen Xers, in my personal experience and I think that means you aren't tech-savvy. Being computer literate is not the same as being tech-savvy in my opinion.  

laura__palmer June 14, 2022

@daijobou Yep, women are made to feel less than if they opt for a caesarian  or if they have to use drugs and it's also "Well, women have been doing it for centuries, so suck it up"

laura__palmer June 14, 2022

@cat "I often wonder if the new idea that birth can be "beautiful" (planned/ calm/ natural/ spiritual/ intentional etc) actually leads to women being even more traumatised when it turns out to be chaotic and painful. " absolutely 100% I think. It's not spiritual, nothing goes to plan, you are not calm and it's terrifying. It's nothing like you have in your head. Sometimes your baby almost dies. That is terribly traumatic.  And if everything turns out okay, then you have this baby and that isn't anything like you imagined either. The best thing anyone ever said to me about having a baby while I was pregnant was sometimes you will hate your baby and that is okay.  And this is from one of the best mums I know. At the time I thought it was a bit much but when you've been rocking this thing for hours trying to get it to go to sleep at 3am and it's been countless nights of this, you hate that baby. 

laura__palmer June 14, 2022

@cat Katp wrote a thesis on classroom set up and literally researched the impact of smart classrooms, that is a little more than just "observations". What are your qualifications in this area? 

laura__palmer June 14, 2022

@cat I work in education and information literacy and have a lot of experience with both young and old adult learners and I can tell you that mobile phone use does affect literacy, motor skills and social abilities and I've read a few reputable studies backing this up. I'm not sure where you are getting your information from or if you are even qualified in this field, but I suggest you look a bit deeper.

"In fact many studies have shown that kids who use digital devices have higher literacy levels." Studies show that reading on a screen actually restricts in-depth learning and handwriting class notes rather than typing them leads to better retention of information.  Obviously, our educational outcomes slipping over the past 30 years is not *just* due to that, the public education system in this country has been seriously defunded over the last few decades and school libraries and library professionals in schools are almost nonexistent, leading to huge problems with literacy, but there are issues around handing pre-school aged children a tablet to distract them and how their social and emotional development is affected negatively by that and around how using just tech in the classrooms for the sake of it, rather than focusing on how different children learn. Tablets, smartphones, laptops, and other similar tech are just really tools and not all tools are for all purposes. These newer generations grow up on the internet, as was discussed in the post written by the Gen z teenager and it's important we look at the negatives of these tools as well as the positives and not just pretend that there are no issues surrounding the use of them, both in education and in the home.

laura__palmer June 14, 2022

@katp You've reminded me of something I read a few years ago that, in fact, for neurotypical, able-bodied students, being in smart classrooms has no benefit and taking notes the old-fashioned way with pen and paper rather than typing it out on a laptop means that students retain information better. It's only when there are learning difficulties or disabilities that students benefit from using technology to assist them in retaining course content. 

laura__palmer June 14, 2022

@cat Yeah, it's weird how dismissive older generations are of gen z and their experience of the world. I remember older generations doing it to us when we were young adults and I still don't understand it. Gen z has a very different experience of the internet and tech than any of the previous generations because most of us can remember a time without it. They can't. It's all they've known and I think we should be listening to their experiences and how we can make things better for the next lot. 

laura__palmer June 14, 2022

@mamamia-user-482898552 all the gen xers I know aren’t as tech savvy as the millennials, but maybe that’s just the ones I know. 

laura__palmer June 13, 2022

The great thing about being an elder millennial is that we were old enough to have learned how to read a map or go off without being contactable for a while or using paper based guides, yet young enough to still adapt to the internet and new technologies. I got to see the world pre widespread internet, spend time online before social media sites were around and then watch as technology has transformed our lives to the point we were able to use it to help get us through a physical world wide shut down. I have no idea what it’s like to ever know a world without it, though, and I laugh at older generations who disparage gen z for being on their phones all the time, who invented this stuff? Not them, they were handed it by the older generations! And who cares if they don’t know what a rotary phone is or how to read a paper map? We have computers, smartphones and the internet now. It’s outdated tech. 

What I’m really glad I missed out on is the bullying that takes place. It was bad enough every day at school without phones and social media, to go home and have it continue after hours to the point you can’t even be socialise with your peers online must be terrible. 

laura__palmer June 13, 2022

"Regardless of the circumstances, childbirth will be one of the most significant, and probably most painful, experiences of a person's life. It’s a Big Day. " Exactly.
Childbirth and pregnancy are traumatic experiences and it should be normalised that people who go through it are going to probably experience some form of PTSD. People should not be expected to just suck it up because it happens every day or because someone else had a different experience. It's a huge thing to go through! 

laura__palmer June 13, 2022

@mamamia-user-482898552 Couldn't agree more. Someone's sexuality is not a news story if they haven't announced it themselves first. 

laura__palmer June 13, 2022

Yes. Yes it is. Probably shouldn't have started listening to her in the first place.