@yeahyepyes I am but one in a very long line of what's been going on for decades. Although I would not intentionally or maliciously hurt another, I am not giving up what makes me happy because it would upset another person. Sorry, I'm not that altruistic. Who is, if they are really honest about it?
@rush it would be a financial nightmare neither of us want to deal with. We make excellent housemates and it's peaceful here now.
@juliannepilgrim I'm sorry for the pain caused you.
@miss d I've told my husband numerous times to find someone. I'd even help! He is not interested. As far as my partner disclosing to his wife? No. It would absolutely destroy her, but I think she may know. He and I agree that with this "outlet," we are happier and therefore more attentive, better spouses. Without it? Miserable and it would reflect in our lives.
@mamamia-user-936684540 my husband and I have an arrangement of don't ask, don't tell. There is no deceit on my part, and any deceit on my partner's is his business with his wife. While "congratulating" is not what I do, I do celebrate the way I live my life as a balance to my responsibilities first, and my happiness, however pursued, secondary. Oh hell yeah it's gonna hurt when it's over, but I'm willing to pay the price for what I enjoy now. As far as hurting others, no. This stays discreet.
@rosiecat I fulfill my responsibilities to my family first so no, not selfish.
@rush yes, my husband knows about my affairs (no details). We have established boundaries. I do not respect him any longer, he understands why. His viewpoint would be interesting, I will ask if he will share. He tells me I'm much easier to be around and he enjoys the quiet of being left alone.