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6 relationship tips from someone who's been married for over 50 years.

In an age where 28 per cent of marriages in Australia end in divorce, it’s impressive to hear of a marriage that has lasted a decade, let alone half a century.

Reddit user, LauraParker1939, from the online community Reddit, asked other users for any questions they might have about her over-50 year marriage. And she wasn’t shy about giving them some advice.

Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward were married for 50 years. Image: Getty.

1. Visit a therapist.

"I used one, and many people consider it a sign of weakness, but realistically, a third party mediator can be of great help."

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2. Space isn't always a good thing.

"I generally believe that you should not retreat from conflict in a marriage. Even if it seems like your partner doesn't want you, she may desperately NEED you, and if she loves you she will eventually appreciate your effort."

Joanne Woodward and Paul Newman. Image: Getty.

3. Your bodies will age at different rates.

"[You need to] understand than men and women age differently. I gained a little weight as the years went on and I have developed plenty of wrinkles, but for the longest time my husband seemed to get better looking! He looked distinguished with his grey hair and thin physique (despite eating whatever he wanted) How unfair!"

4. Your sex life will need some adjusting.

"It is easy to fall into a boring routine, but when you already have the emotional connection, trying something new in the bedroom can be just what you need!"

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Woodward and Newman met in 1953. Image: Getty.

5. It's easier than you think to keep the 'sparkle'.

"Make sure you have your own set of friends, hobbies, and ambitions. I would also suggest you try to have regular 'date nights' where you talk only about your relationship, flirt, and just have a good time. It's very easy to get bogged down in the hustle and bustle of today's society.'

6. Marriage is all about partnership.

"The balance of 'power' will shift back and forth over time but neither person should try to deliberately control the other for extended periods of time. I would consider this taking advantage of the other person."

Laura Parker has released an e-book '50 lessons from a 50 year marriage' which you can purchase here