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Tara Pavlovic on the reality of her "emotionally abusive relationship" with Sam Cochrane.

The past few days has seen what was once Bachelor in Paradise’s romantic success story, unravel into a very messy breakup right before our eyes.

Last week, Tara Pavlovic told the Daily Mail her relationship with Sam Cochrane was “toxic,” with him threatening to leave her and ‘playing games.’

A few days later, Sam retaliated with a seething tell-all interview with Woman’s Day.

In the story, Sam claimed Tara had a problem with “excessive drinking” which resulted in violent episodes and her verbally and physically abusing him.

The 28-year-old has since denied the claims and today gave fans a further insight into what she says was an “emotionally abusive relationship”.

Tara's initial response to Sam's claims (posted yesterday). Image: Instagram.
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The nanny-turned -reality-star, who is currently on a press trip with Swedish beauty brand Foreo, thanked fans for their support, many of who messaged her with their personal stories.

"I am getting so many messages from women who have been through the same thing I recently went through," she wrote.

"Thank you everyone for sharing your experiences with me and sending your love. I feel lucky that I was in a similar relationship when I was younger. So after six months I was able to recognise the signs and walk away without guilt when he cried begging me back."

"You're not crazy," she wrote to her fans struggling with similar situations.

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Image: Instagram @tarapavlovic
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Tara also linked to a PopSugar article titled "13 Signs You're Dating a Narcissist," which includes warning signs such as the person gets very involved in the relationship very quickly, doesn't take accountability for their actions and even exhibits unlawful behaviour due to their superiority complex which they believe puts them above the law.

Previously Karen Arluck, a practising clinical psychotherapist, shared with Mamamia the 10 red flags that suggest your partner may be a narcissist.

They include:

1. Their perception of you switches from “all good” to “all bad,” especially when they're angry.

2. They will frequently feel someone else has caused them to feel angry, humiliated, ignored, or discarded - the blame is always external.

3. They have an obsession with self perception.

4. To them, status is everything.

5. When they feel wronged, they will often talk about retaliating in some way.

6. They dislike being proved wrong.

7. They have a rigid view of hierarchy.

8. They lack self awareness

9.  The person is likely to suffer from a lot of shame and guilt, and do everything they can to avoid feeling this way.

10. They are unlikely to identity as a narcissist.

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