Mamamia originally published this piece by Sophie Cachia in 2015. We have decided to share it again because of Sophie’s refreshing, contemporary insight into open relationships and sexuality.
Earlier this year, my husband Jaryd and I got married. Before that in 2013, 22-year-old-me and 21-year-old Jaryd became pregnant and welcomed our son Bobby, something we’d wanted to happen for quite a while. We had been together for over three years and just knew from the get-go that we were to spend the rest of our lives together.
The twist is that the year before falling pregnant – in 2012 – Jaryd and I spent it living in separate states and maintained an open relationship.
Let me take you back to how it began.
We were young and so in love. I remember thinking the very first night (or the next morning I should say…) after meeting Jaryd I just knew he was something amazing. I’d turned 20 that very night, and what a birthday it was. Meeting a new guy after a yucky break up months before and we just really hit it off with a bang, so to speak.
Sophie shares the moment she told her husband she was pregnant.
Top Comments
Good on them for doing what works for them instead of what other people think they should do. We all need to live our lives authentically and they are a great example of this. The article just left out one point, if you are thinking of trying this at home: It's also really important to be honest about your situation with the people you hook up with so they aren't being led on and hurt. It is unfair to treat your other sexual partners as just a means to an end if they aren't on the same page as well.
I love the honesty in this article. Great idea!