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Dating as a woman can be hard enough, but dating as a woman of colour (WOC) adds a layer of challenges and complexities.
As an Asian woman, I find myself wondering if a man will have an interest in me because I'm Asian or if he'll only be interested in me because I am Asian and he has an 'Asian fetish' or what some term 'yellow fever.'
I've had friends try to play Cupid between me and a friend of theirs, making comments like, "He's never dated an Asian before but you kind of look like his ex who was white" or "You have to meet my friend, he has a thing for Asians!"
I'm expected to feel honoured that their friend is likely to choose me, to want me and I'm tired of having to overthink the role my Asianess plays in whether I will be appealing or desirable to men.
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Growing up, I never felt that my Asian identity and my Vietnamese roots were something I could take pride in.
My reality was being referred to as "The Chinese one" or "that Asian girl".