I know I am incredibly lucky to have one beautiful child. A gorgeous, funny, fiery, busy, two-year-old boy who makes my heart melt every day. As it approaches Christmas it ticks over 12 months of In Vitro Fertilisation (IVF) in the hope of adding to our family of three. It’s our second Christmas wishing we were pregnant. Just this month, we experienced another failed embryo transfer.
I love our family of three and not one day goes by when I don’t thank my lucky stars, God, our fertility specialist and whoever else was watching over us to make our dream possible. Two miscarriages and a diagnosis followed by counselling sessions, tears, daily injections, scans, day procedures, bloating, abdominal pain, significant cost; it was all worth it. And we are doing it all again now.
This time around it’s different. It’s not any easier. The thing is, I know how wonderful it is to bring a child into the world. The excitement of hearing the heartbeat, feeling a baby somersault inside you and holding your precious bundle for the very first time. The late nights, the long nights, the first laugh, the first tooth, the first step. The first time my little boy said ‘Mama’. Periods of hope this year have been followed by multiple devastating blows.
Meshel Laurie talks about going through IVF alone on No Filter with Mia Freedman.
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I have two and I understand the yearning. I do yearn, too, still. However, unlike you both, the process towards having more children is a little more difficult. I would have to actually meet someone and I am in a spot where I don't want to meet and marry again. I would adopt in the future if it comes to having more.
I feel your pain. Our first child was conceived easily. Our second child not so much! It took over 10 IVF cycles, more than 20 embryo transfers, 2 laparoscopys and so much money. None of this worked. After 7 years of trying relentlessly, we turned to surrogacy and finally had our second little boy. I'm incredibly grateful, but those 7 years were long, difficult and are sometimes soul destroying. My blue print was 3 children also, but I simply don't have the energy to try for a third. Please be considerate with comments. We crave that extra bubba like everyone else and their blueprint.
Congratulations on your family!