I constantly flirt with the idea of quitting Facebook, but last week, I read a post that stopped me in my tracks and reminded me why I haven’t committed to deleting my account altogether.
It was written by one of my former magazine editors, and it almost felt as it was written just for me.
Nila’s just turned 50, and her attitude towards this milestone birthday was one of celebration and joie de vivre.
“I’ve been waiting for this day like a child’s first trip to Disneyland. Why? It’s a BIG feat to reach 50!” she wrote.
You see, I’ve been feeling slightly crap about myself recently. I have two kids, including a nine-month-old, and bouncing back into shape hasn’t been quite as the easy second time around. Worse still, I recently found a wrinkle – a really big one on my forehead, in a previously smooth and wrinkle-free space.
Now, I’m fully aware that this is a shallow problem to focus on. I have a husband who struggles with depression, two gloriously demanding little girls, a busy career, electricity bills that defy logic (our last was $1,750!), and my dad is being treated for pancreatic cancer. There’s plenty else going on.
But still. That bloody wrinkle. I see it every time I glance in the mirror, every time someone snaps a photo.
I know it’s not about the wrinkle. Other women my age have crows feet and laugh lines; it’s completely normal. Isn’t it?
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I will turn 28 in less than a week and I'm starting to really dislike how I'm starting to look. Stupid lines around the eyes when I smike, making me not want to smile. It actually makes me not like going out during the day so I won't have people looking at my face close up in daylight.. I guess the rest of my life's just going to be horrible and it's like younger women enjoy rubbing their youth in my face or something.
Dear Sarah, please appreciate and enjoy your youth and health.. Time takes it's toll on us all and I've found that the most beautiful people are the ones who are contented.
You told us, you have babies, a husband dealing with depression, a father who is sick, and a career, maybe these are some of the reasons you're feeling a little crap.
Please don't be so hard on yourself - by the way you are gorgeous. Make time to take care of yourself and do things which make you happy - even if it means a little botox for that pesky brow line - not advocating it - but it's an option.
Yes, ageing is hard and scary - but give thanks for the fact that you are here with your family - I regularly have treatment at a cancer centre and it's heart breaking to see so many young people in the prime of the lives who who would give anything for more time with their families.