For many, meeting a partner’s family is the kind of necessary evil that comes with a burgeoning love and new relationship. For most, the worry surrounds a fear of awkwardness, a fear of being judged or perhaps a worry that not everyone will get along.
So spare a thought for one poor Reddit user who just realised the guy she just started seeing has a family history she is unwittingly intertwined with: she has slept with her new boyfriend’s brother-in-law.
“So I just started dating a new guy, Ryan* (names changed for privacy). I haven’t met any of his family yet but I think I may meet them over the holidays at some point. I recently came across his sister, Megan’s Facebook page, and realised that her husband, Tom is a guy I was friends with and had sex with (one time) my freshman year of college eight years ago,” Reddit user troodon wrote.
She went on to explain that upon realising Tom had a girlfriend, she stopped seeing him immediately.
“After we hooked up, I found out that Tom had a girlfriend and stopped seeing/hanging out with him. Turns out they got married and the girlfriend is Ryan’s sister (yes, I’m sure it’s the same girl he was dating back then).”
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So does troodon have a responsibility to report this to her new boyfriend? Or even worse, perhaps her new boyfriend’s sister?
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Best to say nothing imo.
Tricky. If you and your boyfriend end up serious I guess at some point you're going to have to confront it. But then again the guy probably had nothing to gain from digging it up either, so maybe the best thing is mutual acknowledgment and then denial? As the Chinese say, to know and not act is to not know.