We always take cash as per our budget for the night (and order accordingly). Restaurants will always take a part cash payment even if the rest of the table is covered by card. Otherwise one of us normally pays the whole thing, a photo is posted to the group chat and we transfer before lunch the next day.

I am offering another perspective. What about the girls who’s party it was?

The girl who didn’t set a theme, for her birthday and worked (presumably with her parents) to put on a fun night for everyone. Except now it’s all about this gang of (going out on a limb here) all girls college girls who thought it would be funny to where these t shirts.

I agree with Jessie, no way at 18 are they processing the implications of the shirts. But I will guarantee in 2-3 years time they will look back with a 🤦‍♀️

This discussion spoke to on so many levels. I am a team manager for a team of healthcare practitioners and have had to keep them together through the pandemic. Now we had to do check ins, well we were told to do them by someone in P&C - try hey we’re annoying. 9/10 members of my team were like I am ok, please stop asking me to expose myself in open forum and let’s just have a 1:1 coffee each month. Urgh to the obligatory check in