This brought up so many ghosts from the past. I don't understand why people are so reluctant to have difficult conversations. It's awful to realise that you are not as important to them as they were to you when you most in need of a friend. the callousness and lack of compassion is heart breaking and the hardest to get over.

As a women's advocates etc.. I have to question why do you perpetuate the pitting of woman against woman

Love this so much. sleep is for your body and brain to rest and regenerate. intimacy and closeness is so important. That constant need to max every second is what burning us alive.

@mamamia-user-482898552 co parenting can be referred also to a parent that sees the child once a fortnight.. that is single parenting. It is a very wide term! The mental load and financial burden mostly taken on by one parent is huge! In a perfect world, the burden will be carried by both parents, but that's often not the reality.

Once again, when reporting DV, there is a sense of victim blaming. He drove the car at her, full stop. Don't make it sound like an accident. It should have stayed a murder. That was his intent, and this time he succeeded. We need to do better

I was a solo mother to three children, no child support and he also elected to not see the children. I have no family in Australia so was left to do it all alone. The toll is huge! Now, my kids are adults and independent and I am so grateful that they are happy and following their dreams. I'm 50 yo, recovering from the impact of an auto immune condition that was brought on by years of stress. While my body is recovering and getting stronger, emotionally I am struggling. No one speaks of the erasure of yourself while you are there for your children 100% with no support. I am just discovering who I am. Also, financially, while earning a really good wage, I have no savings nor any property.  Unbelievably, he was now caught by child support as he no longer works for himself and is paying back a debt of over $100k at $50 a fortnight while owning properties and having a superannuation of over $1Mil. The laws should change!

I am so so sorry for your loss. what a horrific thing to go through. I think the laws should change and bullies need to be facing consequences for their behaviour. Parents need to be held accountable as well. I don't want to hear that bullies are suffering and that's why they do it.. it's like saying that because someone was abused, they abuse. It's not true! and even if they are suffering, it does not give them a license to cause harm to others. From his last message it seems like he was encouraged to end his life, that's illegal! Yes, education is a key but also consequences..

I'm going to ask some controversial questions but before I do, Yes, I raised 2 boys by myself with no family after leaving their abusive father. Yes, I believe that this man is solely responsible for his own actions. Now that the PC part is done. Where is this young man's family? His mother? His friends? Where are they? What have they done to try and stop him when he breached the DV order so many times? Where are the men? Why does the mother have to advocate for her slain child? I'm not even going to touch on our joke of a 'justice' system. Where is the community holding these men accountable? When are men going to say enough!

@simple simon I feel the same way be it woman or man. But, as they say, there is no justice in law..

Why was he given bail? why is he out? he breached an intervention order! and is suspected in killing a woman.. Also, who bailed him out? why?

How is he out on bail?? He breached an intervention order and is suspected in killing a woman! when is this going to stop?

I think using a law that is there to protect a parent (Man/ woman) who stands to be disadvantaged due to parenting duties such as reduced super, lower income or non at all, to benefit a man/ woman who has the same opportunities to earn or better themselves is such a damaging thing. I am not talking about financial abuse/ control cases.. that is why each case needs to be reviewed for its merits.. 

Her take on the Let Them theory changed my life and helped with the anxiety I felt for most of my life but most devastatingly the past 2 years. It is so simple and so powerful that I resisted at first as I thought it was too simple. 

It is often expected from the victims to stand up and outcry, demand recognition, demand change. What a twisted world we live in. I want to see men marching the streets demanding that the laws change so that violent offenders are not given bail. I want to see our male political 'leaders' cry out and make this a focal point of discussion consistently!! I want to see them put pressure on our archaic legal system to change! I am so sick and tired to see this outcry everytime a woman dies, it's too late then. Where are the men???

I didn't think I could love her more, but there you go. She is my crush girl. I'm actually picturing her meditating with Moby, I bet that would have been a blast.. I am going to write a letter to my future man, I'm truly inspired. 

@ejay I see what you are saying and I absolutely agree with you! I apologise that the tone of my comment indicated that I do not hold most of the disgust at him. My intention was to not repeat what has been said about him in other comments which I totally agree with. But I still hold judgement on women who chose to be with men who treated OTHER women like he did.. 

@snorks The employment laws?? what does it matter where she worked if they followed the employment laws?? If you look at the Fair Work laws, most of the law makers are men.. I'm not sure what you were hoping to achieve with your comment??

@snorks You can take maternity leave prior to you having your baby.. so she did, and the baby lived for a little bit.. they are taking back what they provided her with which they canno

@kim.rochow Me too..

@ruth2018 They were taking back ALL maternity leave, including the time taken while the baby was alive, that is unlawful and morally corrupt.