This is such a devastating story. It is a disgustingly prevalent thing in our society. It defies belief that parents would stand by and allow these things to happen. I hope as we educate our children about bodily autonomy, these perpertrators will not have the opportunity to destroy children's lives. 

The saying "Two is not enough and three is far too many" comes to mind. Hang in there!

Love this!! I was worried it was going to be really earnest and sincere. So funny! 

Such an interesting piece. Don't put too much stock in what people on the internet have to say about you Claire. It can be an brutal place where people are just awful just for the sake of it. I think it says more about them than you. 

Thank you for sharing your story. As an average sized person, I was ignorant to the huge stress and difficulties you and other plus sized people must face in these everyday situations. I hope your story brings change. 

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Thank you Holly for always being so honest and real about parenting challenges. Our lives are saturated with technology, it can seem like an impossible battle that we are so unprepared, and so unwilling to fight off on behalf of our kids. I feel so sad for what young people will miss out on because their phones kept promising them something better. 

Thanks for the comment about cruelty free products, such an important thing for people to consider. It is unbelievable that this cruelty is tolerated and accepted. 

I agree with Mia. There's no point having both parents exhausted when only one can breastfeed. It's also an emotionally difficult time,  two exhausted people doesn't help the relationship in those early days. 

I'm also confused as to how you manage to do all these things without family support? I'm in the same situation with kids and no support so I don't know how you can go on dates ,unless you hire a babysitter, which can be very expensive. 

What a lovely way to honour your beautiful Zailie.  Thank you for sharing your story. 

Why are they so long? I think it's reasonable that parents, especially working parents find this difficult and express it.  There is so much defensiveness on this subject. 

I'm definitely with Mia on this one.

The word "stupid" is an awful term to call your friend.

Holly, this is such a heartbreaking story. I am so sorry for you and your family. Elvi was such a beautiful girl and she is obviously so loved by all of you. Please don't feel as though your grief is not as valid as someone else's. The love and joy our dogs bring to our lives is immense. To have her taken far too soon makes it so much worse. Much love to you all.xx