@shadyshallows  yes I do blame myself for not walking away fast enough but I refuse to let him put all the blame on me. Which he has tried to do more than once. He also made a choice to do what he did. I didn’t force it in fact he chose to peruse me and didn’t give up on it no matter how many times I said no your married! Even still he does it every time I see him. It doesn’t make me evil I’m sure you’ve been tempted to do things that are morally wrong before ?  No one is perfect and I’m not asking his wife to forgive me just for people to understand that cheating is often much more complicated and implies a need for the couple to look at what lead to it and try to fix it if they want to stay together.  Throwing blame solely on me wouldn’t be helpful to them at all.

Hi as the other woman I really appreciate someone saying this finally there are so many people that blame the other woman . Yes I probably should have had more self control and self respect when he started hitting on me but then again I’m not responsible to the person he’s married to he is.