This was very interesting. I'm a man who joined Ashley Madison at probably about the same time as the writer, although I think I'm in a different city. My experience was much the same as hers, though with a number of obvious differences: men on the site vastly outnumber women, and any unsolicited contact from a woman is almost certainly from a bot or a scammer who's after your money. Like the writer I've had several very satisfactory relationships with wonderful women. They've all ended with regret on both sides, and no doubt the one I'm in now will eventually end the same way.