Great takes — however, I found it annoying the inconsistency in pronunciation of Che (not Shay!), misgendering Che and conflating ethnicity and nationality

@snorks thanks for your insightful response. 

I love and value Virginia’s writing on the realities of being a full-time, unpaid carer to your own children. Because the authors writing is so honest and such experiences of raising children is so marginalised, it’s no surprise that people deride the intent of the article. Parenting is the ultimate long-game in life and the point is our society does not value the contribution we make because the ROI is not immediately and neatly quantifiable. I’ve seen a lot of condescension that it’s a “privileged” choice and you’ve sadly (or intentionally) missed point of the article, while (unintentionally) providing yet further examples of the misogyny it is highlighting. 

How is this different from pulling the ‘as a mother’ card? It’s my opinion that it’s wholly unfair (and condescending) using Abbie’s age and being child-free as a reason for her just not getting it. She has 27 years experience as a child/daughter. Mia, I can appreciate that this is your specific experience. I do not agree with this binary representation of gendered relationships with children. Oh, and I say this as a mother (of both assigned at birth male and female children).

THANK YOU. This has filled my cup today <3 

I honestly did not understand or resonate with this segment. The binary nature of “choosing” was so trivial to me. Is this really what women are talking about?

We relay, and we still do. Currently, my partner is responsible for our older child at night and I have my toddler to feed and comfort through the night.

Jessie, if you’re interested, I found this article helpful and practical. I wish I had read this before having my babies:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201611/sleep-train-baby-don-t?amp