Mine both got iPhones in year 5. These days so much socialisation and event planning happens on messages and face time they would miss out without it. Especially during all the lock downs etc. plus that way I can contact them whenever I need to. It’s also a great discipline tool - best lever I have to enforce rule breaking is device confiscation.
It’s not a debt! It’s a potential reduction in savings if you don’t make up for it. Let’s be accurate.
It’s healthy to put in place boundaries and sounds like your happy with yours. However, I’m not sure if I would ever choose to cut immediate family out of my life for anything short of outright abuse. Especially now I’m a parent and can’t imagine the heart break of having my kids cut me off over what sound like some fairly minor issues.
My now husband told me he loved me the first time we got together. In his defence, we were both 17 and fairly intoxicated. I told him it was lust not love and I didn’t want a relationship. However, we have been together ever since and are now in our mid forties with two kids and still regard each other as the love of our lives. So maybe there is love at first sight?
Congratulations on becoming more self aware and considerate of those around you. Don’t really understand how anyone would think it ok to scream (whether during sex or otherwise) in an apartment?
Great that you had such positive births. Goes to show everyone is different and every birth is different. Mine were considerably different to yours but my pregnancies sound less horrible!
So it’s not that you have agreed with your husband that you can be poly - you just constantly cheat on him. And you think that’s not selfish or abusive? Sure….
Sounds great! I have a 4 year gap with mine and sometimes wish it was a bit larger. Especially as my 16 year old son isn’t yet able to sometimes drive his 12 year old sister to activities etc (looking forward to that one!). Just think how great it will be when you can bribe your oldest to babysit the younger while you go out to dinner!
Very personal issue. I am a loner and don’t like visitors in my home much at any time. Some people though thrive on the attention and are upset if they don’t have visitors, presents and fuss. Do what works for you and don’t feel guilty. That said, think you have to allow new grandparents to visit and see the baby at an early point or you are being very selfish.
Love this! I once got told off because my preschooler had 2 squares of chocolate in his lunch box. Just as I was being lectured on healthy eating he came round the corner with a giant chocolate choc chip muffin the other teacher had given him!
Life advice: Don’t post online that you log in late to work with a hangover and then spend most of a day you are taking as sick leave at the hair dresser. Or your financial situation might deteriorate quite a bit!
I really didn’t like season 2. They departed from the book too much - it wasn’t really a love triangle story at all in the book. Was much more on romance and character development- in fact it mainly focused on the two leads falling in love after marriage. The Diverse casting was great as was the costumes - but the actual original story in the book was much better!
The pressure around breast feeding is insane. Breast is best is rammed down all mothers throats. I felt like a total failure when I had to end breast feeding after 6 weeks with my first and even less with my second. My kids are nearly grown now and I still feel it a bit. Which is ridiculous! But, you know what, fed is best. Formula is food, not poison. I read the other day that some breast feeding group was trying to get formula advertising banned and require it to be sold in unbranded tins like cigarettes! Absolute madness.
It’s such a hard issue. Workplaces need to be accomodating. However, if mental health issues prevent an employee from being able to do the job properly, it’s very hard to see how that can be accommodated - especially if it means other employees have to constantly pick up additional work at no notice thereby endangering their own mental health.
I think it’s sad the author is so worried about an age gap in her relationship and actually (the horror!) looking her age. Hopefully she can learn to be more accepting of herself and her intrinsic value.
Gender disappointment can be hard. I remember crying when I found out my first was a boy as I really wanted a girl. Ridiculous now looking back but it felt real at the time! Still, agree that’s it’s getting a bit hard if you can’t ask a pregnant woman whether she knows the sex of her baby!
Absolutely horrific. Those poor women and children. War crimes prosecutions should be initiated for all. So terrible.
I think it’s immoral to ask for money (which wasn’t given as a documented agreed loan) spent supporting your kids to be paid back. I bet you were hugely upset when you dad tried this.
Great wisdom and perspective.
Absolutely good for them. I hope it just wasn’t about finances though. Most people are poor at 22 - I certainly was- and that may change as your life and career develops.