Yikes! My family has a $10 limit, we agree if people want to go over that, it's on you. The idea is to give something as a gesture. Debt is not festive!
Yes, women have been giving birth in huts in Africa for millennia - that's why sadly 9 out of the 10 countries with worst birth mortality rates are African counties with under resourced medical facilities. Also Agnes is a total liar if she thinks women have been giving birth 'without a fuss'.
Sounds like her daughter gave reasons, but the mother refuses to hear them. The mother also spent so much of this article detailing her daughters mental health problems - to use another person's mental health problems on a self righteous crusade is horrible. Borderline can come from childhood abuse. The mother has admitted to the 'bickering' and slapping, doesn't sound like it was about 'something minor', I wonder what else happened. Also no psychiatrist would say slapping is the right thing to do!!