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'I've been disabled since childhood. I've never seen myself represented on screen.'

In a world where what you see on your phone dictates so much of your life, it's easy to feel left out when the models you see or the actors on your screen don't represent your own beauty.

I had a car accident at the age of two and became an amputee, with third-degree burns. For my entire life, I have looked at the entertainment industry, specifically television and movies, as a coping mechanism, helping me escape the harshness of reality.

But as I grew older, I started to notice what was missing. There was never anyone on screen who looked like me.

Here's the thing: beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. It's not limited to one specific mould. We're all unique, and that's something to celebrate.

Thankfully, the worlds of TV, movies and fashion have evolved in the past decade alone and it's so wonderful to see representation of different races and body types. 

But there is still a huge lack of representation for those living with a disability. 

In Australia, 1 in 6 people live with a disability, 17 per cent of whom are under the age of 15. That's a whole lot of kids growing up, not seeing themselves and their beauty represented. 

Watch: Jess and Aimee discuss the representation of disability on TV and film. Post continues after video.


Video via BBC The Social.
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On screen, people like me are used to entice sympathy or pity. We are reduced to stereotypes or are left out of the conversation completely.

In life, we are praised for our strength, yet are constantly being stared at and questioned like we are this unknown entity that people are curious about. We struggle in so many areas because of the underrepresentation. 

And it's not just on screen where that is lacking. It's crucial that people living with disabilities are represented behind the scenes as well; in positions of authority, working in media, casting, fashion and beauty, just as a start. 

After all, what good is it to see someone who looks like you in an advertising campaign if the brand cannot actually cater to your needs?

Social media has given individuals with disabilities the power to take control of their representation and show the world how we really want to be seen. But where was this representation when I was a kid? I'm now having to spend the years of my 20s redefining my perception of beauty because of this lack.

All of that said, I'm hopeful for the future. More and more, we're seeing people with disabilities in the fashion world, gracing magazine covers and runways, and starring in fashion and beauty advertisements. Talent agencies like Zebedee are leading the way in advocating for underrepresented individuals in the media.

While it's a long road ahead and I wish it was easy, we have to begin by celebrating your own unique beauty. Here are some of my personal tips:

1. Practice self-love.

Self-love is the foundation of embracing your beauty. It means accepting and appreciating yourself, flaws and all. Put a post-it note on your bathroom mirror or a little message on your bedside table to read each morning. It may not change your day but it will at least bring a smile to your face for that one moment.

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2. Create a skincare routine.

It took me forever to find my routine but my gosh I cannot imagine a night without it now. My only suggestion is: keep it simple! Oh, and don't forget sunscreen in the morning!

3. Find clothes that make you feel good.

Screw fashion trends and uncomfortable clothes! Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident.

4. Surround yourself with positive people.

Surround yourself with people who support and uplift you. We don't want any negativity in our lives. Don't be afraid to call your friends or even send a voice memo if you have little time.

5. Engage in activities that bring you joy.

Find something that makes you feel more positive and confident. Whether it's reading, painting, or dancing, pick something that makes you feel good and make time for it regularly. You might need to try a few things out but there's so much fun in that.

6. Practice gratitude.

There is so much we can be grateful for in our lives. Take time each day to reflect on the things you are grateful for, whether it's your friends, family, or a beautiful sunset.

Listen to Fill My Cup where Allira shares some gratitude practises that'll actually lift your mood, without feeling like a wanker. Post continues below.

Ultimately, the key to celebrating your unique beauty is to embrace who you are and be proud of it. Recognise that your differences make you special and beautiful, and never let anyone make you feel otherwise.

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