When I’m watching The Bachelorette with my wife I get the same comment EVERY SINGLE EPISODE:
“Awwwww! That’s so romantic!”
Okay, I admit I could raise the game in the romance stakes. I’m starting to get worried. Am I doing enough? Surely watching The Bachelorette with my wife is a quality date, right?
Nope, The Bachelorette has only proven that I’m a failure when it comes to organising dates. I call it “The Bachelorette Effect”, and we’re all impacted by it – single, married, or however you define yourself.
What is “The Bachelorette Effect?” It’s when there’s a crazy amount of pressure to mix up your dating regime, mixed with a giant helping of extravagance.
Like, who goes jumping off a 12-metre cliff in a wet suit for a date? Where the hell do you get a cage of butterflies in the middle of nowhere? Expectations for dates are now way, way too high and this is making dating harder than ever.
Everyone is talking about the OTT dates that Sam Frost enjoys on a bi-weekly basis. My mate Tommy just told me that his girlfriend signed him up for Argentinian Tango lessons. He said he hates dancing. It seems that everyone’s dates suddenly… suck.
The problem with reality TV shows like The Bachelorette is that it makes us all think that we’re stars, especially when it comes to our love lives. And reality TV dating shows are one step closer to, well, reality than rom coms. Viewers can look at Sam Frost or the dweeby guys who got kicked in the first five episodes and honestly say to themselves: “I’m a real person and I can deserve to have a reality TV life!”
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No not ruined anything - I actually would prefer to date a MAN, not a dozen TV designers, producers etc.....My hubby and I have more romance in our lives than this TV SHOW has in it's little series!!
I think it's down to your imagination and your budget as well as your life - like you said, it's a juggling act and sometimes there just won't be time/energy for anything more than waving at each other from opposite ends of the couch. I just think that you should make the effort when you can: it's the person you love, they deserve the best you have to offer! My husband and I have pretty hectic working lives (even worse than usual lately) but I still try to make things special. If I'm pressed for time and don't want to blow a wad of cash, a lamb roast at home with full works and gravy plus a back to back star wars movie session on a Saturday night will suffice. Other times, when I'm a bit more organised, I can get more creative like really good seats at Bon Jovi's last Brisbane concert. I'm not a fan (soz 90s rock) but he is, so that's good enough for me :)